As parents sometimes it becomes difficult for us to keep a track of what our children our doing while we are managing our own work. However, if we keep certain goals and set points and stick to them then life becomes lot easier.
Here are a few parenting goals that you can set for yourself to have healthy relationship with your kids.
Let the family connection grow stronger
-Ask everyone about their day.
-Do not miss family dinner for any reason.
-Remember to ask kids about their day at school/college.
-Plan a holiday out in the country side.
-Plan surprise outings with the entire family.
-Go fishing with one of the kids to spend time with them more on one-to-one basis.
-Begin a tuck-in tradition with the kids.
-Never forget to ask the kids about the thing they were grateful for in the entire day.
-Never miss a baseball match or ballet recital of the kids.
-Take out time to talk to the kid even for a few minutes.
Do less yelling and more understanding
-Avoid what makes you angry.
-Ask rather than judge the kids.
-Never get angry because of low grades.
-Always first listen to their side of the story.
-Rectify their mistakes rather than punishing.
Give more importance to family morals
-Let being generous be a family rule.
-Reward generosity and respect
-Discuss the benefits of being kind and loving.
-Read books and encourage the kids to do the same.
-Be representative of the values that you want your kid to inculcate.
-Inculcate respectful gestures even while talking to kids.
-Never misbehave in front of the kids.
-Focus on the family values
-Practice more empathy
Following of rules and regulations must be consistent
-Make certain family rules that must be followed by everyone.
-Tell the kids often about the family rules so that they know exactly what is expected out of them.
-Negotiate the consequences of not following these rules.
-Make sure that the kids realize the consequences once the rules are broken.
-Remain consistent towards family rules and consequences
-Make empowering and logical rules and regulations.
-Make good rules to teach the kids good habits.
-Maintain the basic rule to conduct at home.
-Always maintain discipline in front of kids.
-Reward discipline and dedication.
-Reward good changes in the behavior.
Help the kids instill responsibility
-Ask the kids do some house chores as per their age.
-Be specific with the cleaning tasks and divide it among the kids.
-Ask the kids to help with bigger tasks such as laundry, preparing lunches etc.
-Reward the kids for doing great.
-Let them figure out how to do a particular task.
-Ask them to always help each other with their chores.
-Do not indulge in their fight and ask them to solve it with discussion.
Avoid the idiot box
-Make it family rule to use TV only for a limited period of time.
-Ask the kids to visit the library often.
-Share your childhood stories and encourage them to create their own.
-Share about the best book you read as kid and ask them about their favorite.
-Give them chores or other activity to keep them busy and away from boredom.
-Give them small science projects to work on and innovate.
-Discuss more about museums, art exhibitions and sports.
-Encourage more learning
-Make sure to teach one new skill every month
-Help to develop more social skills
Life skills are important
-Teach social etiquettes and practice them more often.
-Teach to cook healthy and tasty food.
-Teach how to take care of their body more.
-Teach and practice money management.
-Encourage volunteering work
-Inculcate study habits
-Promote good use of internet
-Teach prayer and meditation
Encourage love, empathy and respect
-Build a happy and cheerful home.
-Talk about how it feels to be in someone else’s shoes
-Focus more on the common feelings and interests.
-Discuss the effects of their actions on other people.
-Be a role model and practice empathy and respect.
-Read them bedtime stories that encourage empathy.
-Speak respectfully with the child.
-Show your love even if it has been a hard day for you.
Let the mindset of Abundance be created
-Practice gratitude more often.
-Practice happiness in whatever you have.
-Practice generosity even if you got less.
-Treat them for practicing generosity and abundance.
-Practice sharing and encourage helping.
-Take them for charity shows and encourage volunteering.
Help them find their calling
-Encourage extracurricular apart from studies.
-Encourage to pursue interests
-Share how much you enjoy your work.
Encourage justice over favoritism
-Encourage them to be just and right.
-Encourage to do what is right even if that implies discarding the rules.
-Encourage them to take a stand for everyone if that is right.
-Critical thinking skills must be encouraged.
-Do not critique their attempts
Give them an exposure of the world
-Eat varieties of cuisines
-Read them stories about kids from other parts of the world.
-Attend more music and cultural meets and festivals.
-Travel more and encourage acceptance of other cultures.
-Send for summer camps in different parts of the country.
-Teach different languages.
-Communicate with respect
-Show love that is unconditional
Learn about their performance at school
–Keep the number of teacher handy.
-Become friends with your kid’s friends.
-Encourage mutual sharing of stories about daily life.
-Be friendly while discussing serious issues.
-Encourage them to share their problems at school
-Help them to find a positive and impactful solution to the problems.
-Visit school once in a month to meet the teacher.
-Check the diary for remarks and understand their pain point.
-Encourage the kid to accept his mistake and rectify it later.
-Encourage finding of the solution to the problems through discussion.
Help them become independent
-Teach kids to choose their own clothes.
-Teach them how to tie their shoelaces.
-Encourage them to complete their homework on their own.
-Encourage equal division of household chores among the kids.