Speaking in public is never an easy thing to do. There are a number of things that are required to talk confidently in public. If you say ‘um’, ‘ah, ‘you know’ and other crutch words a lot of times when you are talking, then you will not sound confident. People also will not be convinced enough to listen to you. It is important for every speaker to have a clear speech having the least amount of ‘ums’ and ‘you knows’.
However, once using crutch words becomes a habit, it is very difficult to stop saying them. But do not be saddened as it is not an impossible task to accomplish either. With proper practice and the right tactics, you will learn to stop using these words in no time. Today we bring you some of the ways you can fix this problem and learn how to stop saying ‘um’ and ‘you know’.
At first, you have to know why it is so important to learn to stop using crutch words. You may think that it is a very common thing to do and is not a very big deal. But if you want to convey your message to people so that they may understand you fully, you must stop using such words. Another thing to keep in mind is that when a person uses words like ‘uh’, ’um’, ‘you know’ etc. many times while talking, she or he may sound unconfident or hesitant.
Sounding hesitant in your speech may make you feel uncomfortable. People who are listening to you will also not be interested to listen to your speech.
For all these reasons, it is a must to stop using crutch words while talking. Below are some of the ways you can stop this habit very quickly.
1. Acknowledge the problem you have
To be able to change any situation, you must acknowledge its existence first. There is no shame in admitting that you use ‘um’ and ‘you know’ many times while talking. It is not a rare thing at all.
A person of any age might have this problem, be it a school going teenager or a high class business executive. However, if you want to change this habit, you have to admit the fact that you use these certain words and be determined to try to stop saying them. You have to mentally prepare yourself and set goals on how to learn to stop using those words.
2. Record yourself speaking
It will be very helpful if you can pinpoint the times you use crutch words in your speech. To understand this, you can record yourself speaking freely on any subject. Think of a subject you like to talk about and speak loudly on that topic. Grab a recorder or record on your desired device. Play the audio back and listen carefully when and why you start using those words while talking.
You can do the same thing but in a different way. If you do not like recording yourself, you can ask someone to listen to you speak. Talk continuously for a few minutes on any subject. Ask the person listening to you to hear carefully and make notes when and where you use crutch words. Once finished, you can take their feedback and try to improve your speaking from those notes.
3. Learn to pause when you talk
Now, this is very important. One of the sole reasons why people stutter or use crutch words is because they speak too fast. Our brain processes our thoughts very quickly which is why while talking in public, we forget to add subtle pauses or breaks here and there. For this, people tend to speak very quickly.
Many people think that if they pause or take a break while talking it will not seem very nice, that is why they use crutch words instead of remaining silent for a few moments. Because of the fact that our brains function so fast, a few moments of silence feel like an eternity to us while speaking in public.
But that is not the case in reality. On the other hand, the audience will not be able to understand you properly if you keep on saying ‘um or ’you know’. The audience will hear you better if you add pauses in your speech. The breaks will allow them to think about what you said and understand them better, instead of just hearing your lecture and forgetting them immediately.
The other way of understanding this is to remember the use of ‘commas’ in a textual language. Why do we use commas? You must all know the answer to this question which is to mark a short pause in the sentence while reading. If you think of it, you need commas when you speak out loud as well. Without pauses and breaks, a sentence may sound unclear.
That is why it is equally important to use a comma or short pauses while speaking too. Pauses and breaks also create a sense of suspense in your speech or storytelling. It keeps the audience engaged and interested in listening to you speak.
4.Prepare what you’re going to say
Another helpful tip is to always prepare your speech before saying it out loud to the public. Write down what you are going to present in front of your audience. If you do not want to write each and every word then note down the key points only. Practice speaking in front of a mirror several times before speaking in public. This will help you have a clearer voice and also give you a confidence boost.
5. Close your mouth when you forget what to say
One of the major reasons people use crutch words is because they forget what to say. When such an incident happens, they keep their mouth open as a result they subconsciously start using crutch words. This problem can be alleviated with practice. Practice closing your mouth when you forget what you’re about to say or when you want to use short breaks. This will surely help you eliminate the use of crutch words.
These points are legit, and not to mention we can relate to them in some way or other. So, if you are also struggling to speak fluently and trying to cut those “Um” and “You know” from your speech, start with working on them at home and then at work place and gradually you will be able to overcome them from your masterpiece deliveries either through some presentation or speech on special events. The above mentioned tips work from everyday life chit chats to a presentation on a bigger day.
So, good luck with your practice!
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